Stanley D. Kankowski

stanley kankowski

May 11, 1919 ~ May 5, 2018

Stanley D. Kankowski longtime resident of Fort Lee, New Jersey passed away on Saturday, May 5, 2018 a few days short of his 99th birthday. The younger of two children of Wladyslaw and Julianna, Stanley was a lifelong practicing Catholic. Along with his sister Jean he was educated at local Catholic schools and was fluent in both English and Polish. Tennis was his sport of choice which he played in his youth and followed all his life. Stanley was also an avid fisherman with a preference for ocean fishing in the waters off New Jersey although he could be found "dipping a line" almost anywhere.

Like many of his generation Stanley was called by his country to service in World War II which he did in the U.S. Army Battery D 143RD Anti Aircraft Artillery Gun Battalion fighting in France, Belgium and Germany.

Returning from the war in Europe, Stanley met and married in 1949, the love of his life and wife of 68 years Marion Abruzzo. This was followed by the birth of son Stanley John and daughter Marianne. In 1956 the family moved into their house in Fort Lee.

Stanley was always mechanically inclined and had the ability to understand and repair almost anything. He worked first in installing high voltage underground wiring later assembling airplane wings for the war effort prior to his time in service. After his marriage to Marion he worked in a business part owned by his father-in-law, Jersey Thread & Scallop Cutting Company a part of the Schiffi embroidery industry that was widespread in Hudson and Bergen Counties at the time.

With the demise of the embroidery industry in New Jersey, Stanley went to work for a friend that had just started his own business building conveyors for the food industry. Stanley worked as an assembler and shop electrician for Traycon, Inc. until his retirement at age 86. Fair to say, he enjoyed his work.

On moving to Fort Lee, Stanley and Marion became communicants and supporters of St. Nicholas RC Church. Both of their children were schooled at St. Nicholas elementary school, and Marion and Stanley were involved in a number of church related organizations. Stanley was the first Cubmaster of the newly formed Pack 302 at St. Nicholas. He was also a member of the Holy Name Society and a longtime Church Usher.

Stanley and Marion spent many good times at the Jersey Shore but also enjoyed international travel having been to Italy on several occasions as well as France, Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Venezuela and Brazil.

Several years ago Stanley and Marion moved to a retirement community in Indianapolis, Indiana, very near their daughter Marianne.

Stanley is survived by his beloved Marion, his son Stanley John and his wife Laura Mylott, his daughter Marianne Spinola and her husband Stanley Michael, and their three children Stanley John, Suzanne and Caroline. Stanley is also survived by Marion's brother John, thirteen nieces and nephews and many grand nieces and grand nephews. For years Marion and Stanley have been especially close to their pastor and friend Rev. Antonio da Silva.

We, his family and friends, do not mourn for Stanley, instead we celebrate the long life of this gentle man.

The family will receive their friends on Wednesday 10:00 – 11:30 AM at the Frank A. Patti and Kenneth Mikatarian Funeral Home 327 Main Street "opposite the Fort Lee Library". The funeral will leave Wednesday at 11:30 AM for the celebration of his funeral mass in St. Nicholas R.C. Church at 12:00 PM. For condolences, directions, or information call (201) 944-0100 or


Mass: May 9, 2018 12:00 pm

St. Nicholas R.C. Church
442 E.Brinkerhoff Avenue
Palisades Park, NJ 07650

Visitation at Funeral Home: May 9, 2018 10:00 am - 11:30 am

Frank A. Patti & Kenneth Mikatarian Funeral Home
327 Main Street
Fort Lee, NJ 07024

Final Resting Place:

Madonna Mausoleum
2070 Hoefleys Lane
Fort Lee, NJ 07024

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  1. As hard as it is to loose someone you love it would be far worse not to have those cherished memories.
    Although I didn’t know your dad, grandfather well , I had the pleasure of several visits. Kind, quiet, interesting and such a gentle man.
    My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time. Sincerely Brenda

  2. Our thoughts and prayers are with you today and tomorrow. Such a beautiful obituary! I could truly picture Mr. and Mrs. Kankowski and Stan and Marianne as a young family! Beautiful words for a kind and gentle Husband, Father and Friend. XO
    Cathy, Paul, Alex, Maggie & Abby Benoit

  3. Sorry to hear about your dad. He was a wonderful man who lived a full life. I am sure he will continue to live on in your hearts. Thinking about you and sending love.

  4. Marion, Stanley & Marianne,

    On behalf of Edith Cullen and the Cullen/Monani Families, I would like to express my most sincere condolences on the loss of Stanley, your beloved spouse and father. It is a time of sorrow as you grieve for your loved one, but also a time of great joy knowing that he has been called Home. Mom is in Florida now, otherwise she would have been there with you to "celebrate his life" as stated so eloquently in his obituary. We send you our prayers and good thoughts along with our fond memories of Stanley.

    Kevin Cullen

  5. I didn't know Stanley, but I do know his son and namesake. His son is a wonderful person and as kind an individual as you could be lucky enough to meet. Is there a better legacy to leave than a child who makes the world a better place?

  6. Having had the pleasure of meeting your husband and father and grandfather at the Milford Rotary, please accept my condolences on his passing, and know that we're grateful for his service to our country in World War II and beyond. I know you have great memories of him.

    Best Regards,

    David and Sheila Sturm

  7. We are deeply saddened by your loss. Our hearts and prayers go out to Marion and her family.

    Some of our newer parishioners won't remember Marion and Stanley by their names, but they surely remember the adorable couple who brought that delicious strawberry punch to our church events. I believe that's a good way to be remembered. Stanley was a gentleman, always kind and sweet. We have missed both of them for quite some time, and now even more with his passing.

    May the Lord give him a good place in heaven, and bring comfort to our friend Marion, their children and grandchildren.

    St. Nicholas Church's Secretary and friend

  8. We have such fond memories of your Dad and Mom at Stan and Laura’s wedding. They were such a fun loving couple!! We were so fortunate to have met him. Such a kind and gentle man. A life well lived. May you cherish his memory.

    With love,
    Ann-Marie and Jim Stawarky

  9. In 2002 we had the pleasure to met the couple Stanley Kankowski and his wife Marion, together with their son, Stanley John and his wife. It was a week full of joy and outings so they can knew our state, Ceará, a little. Our joy at being with this couple was immense because we knew how much they were loved by our beloved Father Antonio.

    The News of Mr. Stanley’s passing has made us very sad, and even from so far away we want the whole Family to feel embraced and accept our condolences. We ask God for comfort and Peace to the whole Family.

    Fortaleza – Ceará – Brasil 09/05/2018

    Ivonildo Leite da Costa
    Maria Solange de Alencar Costa
    Leonardo de Alencar Costa
    Ana Carolina de Alencar Costa
    Mateus de Alencar Costa

  10. Dear Marian and Family,

    Please accept my sincere condolences on the loss of Stanley. We were great friends during the CYO years with Fr. Paul. Stanley was a wonderful man.

    Glad to hear you are close to your daughter, that helps!

    Dale passed away in 2009 and it is a lonesome life.

    Love to you and your family.
    Fran Parker

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