Stephen Brent Lambeth

stephen lambeth

August 5, 1968 ~ May 7, 2021

Stephen Brent Lambeth

Stephen Brent Lambeth, 52, of Cliffside Park, NJ, passed away on Friday, May 7, 2021, with his husband Matthew and best friend Joey by his side.

Stephen was born in Greenville, NC, and moved to Burlington, NC, for his last year of grade school. After graduating from Western Alamance High School, he earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in German Studies from the University of North Carolina in Greensboro, NC. While pursuing his degree, he spent one summer studying at the Université de Paris à la Sorbonne, Paris, France, and one summer studying at the Goethe Institut in Staufen, Breisgau, Germany.

Upon graduating from UNC, Stephen proclaimed himself a “worldwide citizen” and embarked on a lifetime journey of exploration and enlightenment. He moved to Leipzig, Germany, where he served as an ESL Teacher and Pedagogical Quality Coordinator for the Berlitz School of Languages. He then transferred to the Berlitz School in Vienna, Austria, where he was the Regional Pedagogical Quality Manager, supervising teachers and trainers in five countries. His career path with Berlitz led him back to the U.S. to serve as the Worldwide Training Coordinator for the Berlitz International Headquarters in Princeton, NJ.

Stephen’s expert skills in designing training applications resulted in several contracts as an IT Consultant with the U.S. Army Corps of Engineers and Lenox Information Systems, followed by positions as a LAN Administrator and a Client Training Specialist at EduNeering in Princeton, NJ; a Systems Project Manager at Pfizer in Peapack, NJ; an IT Project Lead with Cleary Gottlieb Steen & Hamilton in New York, NY; and a Senior IT Business Analyst at American Express. For the last 8 years, Stephen worked his way up the ranks at Jaguar Land Rover North America, from a Senior IT Project Manager to the IT Product Lead & North America Data Security Lead.

Stephen made a difference in corporate America and around the world by deftly applying expert communication and business savvy to every interaction. But his true legacy will lie in the hearts of his family and friends who were blessed by knowing him. Stephen was a force of nature: strong, creative, nurturing, optimistic, sincere, and joyful. He gave the greatest bear hugs and had a gift for making anyone he spoke to feel like the only person in the room. The light he brought into an often dim world will be greatly missed.

Stephen was a champion for marriage equality in New Jersey, participating in marches in DC and NJ, and frequently speaking at Montclair State University. As an actor, he was featured in the TV series “Bartender Wars” in 2010, the feature film “BearCity 2: The Proposal” in 2012, and appeared in the Food Network series “Hungry Games” in 2014. In May of 2011, Stephen created the Bear Week in Provincetown Facebook tourism group providing Provincetown Bear Week vacationers useful tips and info to help make their vacation enjoyable in Ptown and during Bear Week. A labor of love, Stephen moderated the group of 14,000 members with positive energy and enthusiasm.

Stephen was fiercely devoted to his family, who will miss his laughter and love every day. He is survived by his loving husband Matthew Vecera; his brother, Dr. John Lambeth, wife Menda, and son Nathaniel; his sister, Linda Orlando, and her husband Gary; and several cousins. He was preceded in death by his father, Dr. H.D. Lambeth, Jr., his mother, Virginia Neighbors Lambeth, his sister, Jennifer Elizabeth “Beth” Lambeth, and his sister, Deborah Anne Lambeth.

Viewing services will be held on Wednesday, May 12th from 4:00-8:00 p.m. at Frank Patti Funeral Home,

327 Main Street, Fort Lee, NJ. A burial service will be held later in Elon, NC, and a celebration of life service will be held in North Carolina on Stephen’s birthday in August.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to The Jennifer Elizabeth "Beth" Lambeth Memorial Scholarship at East Carolina University (


Funeral Service: May 12, 2021 7:30 pm

Frank A. Patti & Kenneth Mikatarian Funeral Home
327 Main Street
Fort Lee, NJ 07024

Visitation at Funeral Home: May 12, 2021 4:00 pm - 8:00 pm

Frank A. Patti & Kenneth Mikatarian Funeral Home
327 Main Street
Fort Lee, NJ 07024

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  1. My deepest condolences on your loss. I will always think of Steve as bigger than life, happy and smiling. He will be missed here by us all, but he will be in good company in Heaven.

  2. Stephen and I connected through Facebook, "friend of a friend." He realized that we were actually cousin relations. He also helped us navigate the service jungle for our Range Rover….and finally, we sealed our friendship over our equal passion for equality and politics.

    God puts people in ones life…and we never know the impact these people make. Stephen made a wonderful impact on my life…even though we never met in person.

    My heart goes to his husband and family. Know you are all in my prayers.

    Much love.

  3. I worked with Stephen at Jaguar Land Rover. He was always happy with a smile on his face. I'll always remember his Holiday Gear……….he had something for every occasion!! I will miss his smile & laugh. Rest in Peace My Dear Friend.

    Cathie Lorenzini

  4. I've been one of Stephen's co-workers during his 8 years with Jaguar Land Rover.

    He was a great person to work with, just a bright light in any room he walked into.

    Can't remember seeing him without a smile on his face or unwilling to give you his attention.

    Sincere condolences to Matthew and Stephen's entire family.

  5. My deepest condolences to Stephen’s husband, family and friends. Stephen was such a lovely man with a kind and generous soul. I worked with Stephen during my time in the USA – he was always positive and passionate about making a difference to both the business and his community. I'll always have very fond memories of him – he was great fun and always willing to spend time helping me and others around him.

  6. I am devastated to hear about losing Stephen. We worked together at Pfizer years ago and have stayed in contact over FB. His laugh and smile were contagious. He made work fun and was such a sweet guy. He will truly be missed. Sending my love to his family and especially Matt.

  7. I am deeply saddened by Stephen's passing. He was so full of joy and positive energy. He always made me smile at work, no matter how stressed I was feeling. He was such a dear, sweet soul. My sincere condolences to Stephen's family and friends.

  8. I worked with Stephen for the last 3 years. We were in touch only a couple of weeks ago and this news was just so shocking and sad. He was a genuine nice guy and worked hard. He brought a lot of fun to the team, you would always be waiting for the next holiday to see what he would wear! He will be missed, we weren't ready for him to leave. RIP Stephen.

  9. My sincere condolences to Stephen’s husband, Matthew, Stephen’s family, and friends. Stephen Lambeth made the world a better place. Stephen was kind, sincere, compassionate, funny and had an amazing spirit. I will truly miss your smile, Stephen. Especially the IMs at work that were mostly spoken with emojis. Rest in peace, friend.

  10. I knew Stephen for more than 15 years, and my sadness and grief are inexpressible. He was so full of joy and contagiously happy whenever I saw him, and he will be greatly missed.

    Much love to Stephen, and to Matthew and to everyone whose lives he touched.

  11. My deepest sympathies go out to Matthew and Stephen's family. I will truly miss him. I loved how you knew Stephen entered a room by his voice and laughter. And I also loved how Stephen had could talk about anything and everything under the sun, immediately putting you at ease. He was a wonderful person with a beautiful spirit that made everything around him better. He will be missed.

  12. The theme is evident. Stephen was a wonderful human being who touched everyone he came in contact with. How fortunate we are to have known him. Very sad to think he won't be at the office when we return. He will surely be missed. Condolences to Matthew and Stephen's family.

  13. I'm a former co-worker of Stephen's (EduNeering). I remember how smart and hilarious he was. There was a great deal of stress for most at that company but Stephen made it tolerable. Sending prayers his family and friends. May he R.I.P.

    Eric Satterthwaite

  14. Prayers to Matthew and family. Going to miss Stephen during Bear Weeks in Ptown. Such a nice and funny guy!

  15. I met Stephen in Leipzig, Germany, early in 1992. He came over to ask my sister and I if we were Irish because I was wearing a big Aran sweater and my sister ‘looked Irish’. We became firm friends from that moment on.
    You could not fail to be charmed by his energy and superb sense of humour .
    I feel so truly privileged to have had Stephen in my life all these years, to have been able to meet up in New York and to see him so utterly and gloriously happy with the love of his life Matthew.
    I have so many happy memories of great conversations and belly laughs with him. Of big hugs and that cheeky smile.
    Stephen will always be in my heart, a true friend.
    To Matthew and to all Stephen’s family I send my sincerest condolences. He was one in a million.

  16. Matthew, I send my love, hugs and prayers to you and the Lambeth family. I was so lucky to get to know you guys when I lived in NYC and loved all Stephen's posts of his ties and socks after I moved to Florida. Rolando was waiting for him and now they're having a cocktail in Heaven.

    Mark Leqve

  17. Steve and I met at the age of 18 at a week-long summer stay at UNCG to introduce us to campus and university life. We became friends and roomed together our sophomore year in the international dorm. Seems like a lifetime ago. Steve was my zany friend and is firmly rooted in my campus experience. He impressed me with his desire and intent to engage with international people. A few years later I would visit him in Leipzig, Germany as part of a trip around Europe. Many years later my wife and I would have a great time hanging out with Steve and Matthew in NYC. My condolences to Matthew and the Lambeth family. I know Steve lives on in the memories of so many people and in the afterlife. I will miss the uniqueness that was his that he always shared.

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